To Ring Or Not To Ring? That is the question.

Wedding ring, Byzantium, 7th c. AD, nielloed gold.

Wedding ring, Byzantium, 7th c. AD, nielloed gold. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Weddings, marriage, and babies are the things that many people look forward to in life. Regardless if male or female eventually a good percentage of people go on to marry sometime in their life. Oh, the feeling of bliss, of upcoming nuptials. There is a symbolic gesture from the beginning with the gift of the engagement ring which eventually becomes the wedding ring. The ring worn by both people in the marriage tells the world, “I belong to someone and they to me”. Sigh.

Then comes my 19 year-old teen saying that when he marries he will NOT where a ring. Gasp! My mind was blown away, when he continued his diatribe to marriage by insisting he would not wear a ring, but his wife would. Oh the shock of it all was almost too much to bare. I couldn’t believe that the one child of mine whose sensitivity was so palpable at times would make such a statement. After I got over the initial shock I asked him why he didn’t want to wear his wedding ring. His statement was as simple as his announcement, why? He and his wife knew they were married and that was all that counted.

Well, I suppose his statement was true enough. Wedding ring or no wedding ring  a couple was still married, right? Why did we even have wedding rings in the first place? Wedding rings have been in existence since Egyptian times. Whenever I meet someone my eyes usually falls first to their ring fingers. Are they married or are they single. Why? Because, encroaching on someone else’s person is not the thing to do. I believe that both parties should wear a wedding ring. The wedding ring symbolizes a couples love for each other. Of course, some people don’t feel that they need to announce to the world they are married and I suppose this should be okay too, right? To each his own?

Sigh, to ring or not to ring? A traditional symbolic thing which tells the world you are loved. Are there women out there that would rather not wear a wedding ring? Are the old traditions becoming stale? My son told me that wearing a ring would not change the love he felt for his wife and that his love for her is more important than a piece of metal. He makes a good point as children often do and as parents we are quick to dismiss. It is the love and bond between a man and women that is the most important thing, and even the best ring cannot change a true love bonding. Maybe todays world is too focused on the ring and not enough on the actual marriage. Maybe the divorce rate could be lowered if tradition was not the main issue of a marriage proposal, but instead with thoughts of spending a life time together.

Marriage contract

Marriage contract (Photo credit: Center for Jewish History, NYC)


“So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me… everyday.”
― Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook


2 Comments on “To Ring Or Not To Ring? That is the question.

  1. great post. I have often wondered why some men choose not to wear a ring even though they are married. I see it a lot in architecture, I’m not sure why. I also agree that there is too much focus on the idea of a ring for a woman and not the story of the relationship which is why I love the way my husband and I put ours together, they’re different and special. Thanks for posting on this topic.

    • Thanks, for your comment, amymayd . I really liked your blog about how you chose our ring too. The ring in some cultures can be important, but in reality the marriage itself should be the main focus. Rings can get lost or misplaced but love will always be there if you let it. 🙂

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